The Good Girl Roles Assessment
The Good Girl Roles Assessment
You learned early on that being fully yourself came at a cost.
Maybe you learned to make yourself agreeable.
Helpful.
Endlessly accommodating.
Maybe you learned to be flawless. In control. Beyond criticism.
Maybe you learned to disappear. To go quiet. To take up as little space as possible.
Or maybe you learned to push back. Go cold. Endure in silence. Keep people at a careful distance.
Different strategies. The same wound underneath.
This is Good Girl conditioning.
The systematic process by which girls and women are shaped, through family, school, culture and workplaces, to prioritise approval over authenticity, compliance over confidence, and other people's comfort over their own power.
It doesn't produce one type of woman. It produces many.
The one who can't say no. The one who can't stop achieving. The one who makes herself invisible. The one who fights everything. The one who trusts no one. The one who's still waiting for permission.
Every single one of them learned to survive in systems that had very specific ideas about how women should be.
Every single one of them paid a price for it.
And every single one of them deserves to understand what happened and what's possible now.
In 15-20 minutes, you'll discover:
- Which of the 16 Good Girl Roles are most active in your life right now
- The nervous system response underneath each pattern - and why it made complete sense
- Exactly where your power is leaking and what it's costing you
- Why you say yes when you mean no, push back when you could let go, or wait for permission you could give yourself
- What the healed version of your pattern looks like - and one small step toward it
The Good Girl Roles Assessment
You learned early on that being fully yourself came at a cost.
Maybe you learned to make yourself agreeable.
Helpful.
Endlessly accommodating.
Maybe you learned to be flawless. In control. Beyond criticism.
Maybe you learned to disappear. To go quiet. To take up as little space as possible.
Or maybe you learned to push back. Go cold. Endure in silence. Keep people at a careful distance.
Different strategies. The same wound underneath.
This is Good Girl conditioning.
The systematic process by which girls and women are shaped, through family, school, culture and workplaces, to prioritise approval over authenticity, compliance over confidence, and other people's comfort over their own power.
It doesn't produce one type of woman. It produces many.
The one who can't say no. The one who can't stop achieving. The one who makes herself invisible. The one who fights everything. The one who trusts no one. The one who's still waiting for permission.
Every single one of them learned to survive in systems that had very specific ideas about how women should be.
Every single one of them paid a price for it.
And every single one of them deserves to understand what happened and what's possible now.
In 15-20 minutes, you'll discover:
- Which of the 16 Good Girl Roles are most active in your life right now
- The nervous system response underneath each pattern - and why it made complete sense
- Exactly where your power is leaking and what it's costing you
- Why you say yes when you mean no, push back when you could let go, or wait for permission you could give yourself
- What the healed version of your pattern looks like - and one small step toward it
This assessment is for you if:
You're a woman who works hard, gives generously, achieves a great deal - and still feels like something important is missing. You might people-please or you might push people away. You might perform or you might disappear. You might be exhausted from carrying everything or exhausted from fighting everything.
Whatever your pattern, you're ready to understand it more clearly and lead from a place of genuine power rather than conditioned survival.
What happens after you complete it?
You'll receive a full personalised report with your scores across all 16 roles, detailed insights for your highest patterns, reflection questions to work with, and a clear pathway toward integration.
No shame. No judgment. Just clarity.
Meet the Good Girl Roles
The Pleaser
You say yes before you've checked whether you mean it and feel guilty for days when you don't.
The Perfectionist
You can't rest until it's right, and it's never quite right enough.
The Rescuer
You're already solving the problem before anyone has finished explaining it.
The Peacemaker
You'd rather swallow the truth than risk the atmosphere in the room.
The Performer
You manage what people see so carefully that even you have lost track of what's underneath.
The Caregiver
You give endlessly to others and have quietly learned to need very little in return.
The Chameleon
You become whoever the room needs you to be, and feel strangely empty afterwards.
The Rule-Follower
You follow the rules so carefully, you've never had to trust your own.
The Invisible One
You hold back your best ideas in rooms where they'd matter most.
The Over-Responsible One
You're holding everything together for everyone - and quietly exhausted by it.
The Challenger
You push back, call things out and refuse to be managed - and pay a price for it.
The Gatekeeper
You know exactly who gets access to you - and the list is very short.
The Stoic
You carry everything in silence and call it strength.
The Outsider
You've never quite felt like you belong anywhere, and you've made a certain peace with that.
The Permission-Seeker
You're still waiting for someone to tell you you're ready.
The Defector
You've worked hard not to be seen as one of those women.
Who built this - and why
I'm Michelle Minnikin, chartered organisational psychologist, author and co-founder of The Deprogramming Company.
I built this assessment because I used to score 100% on the Pleaser.
Not metaphorically. Not almost. One hundred percent. Pleasing others wasn't one of my patterns - it was my entire operating system.
Six years, two books and a complete overhaul of how I understand myself later, I score 15% on the Pleaser and 0% on the Permission-Seeker.
I built this framework because I needed it. And because every woman I've ever worked with has needed a version of it too.
This assessment is the most rigorous, honest and compassionate tool I know how to build. I hope it gives you what it gave me.
The beginning of seeing yourself clearly.
M x
Free. 15-20 minutes.
Instant personalised results.
Completely confidential.
16 roles assessed.